It was about this time last year I discovered the movement Domestic Discipline (DD). At first, I simply rolled my eyes thinking it was nothing different from BDSM. After some research, though, my stomach dropped. Not only was this movement much more serious than BDSM, it was mostly populated by Christians.
Domestic Discipline is the practice of corporal punishment, usually the husband inflicting on the wife. This discipline can be losing an allowance, spanking, writing lines or anything else the husband feels his wife deserves for not respecting him or breaking a few of his rules.
I know. It’s sickening.
What separates it from BDSM? BDSM are often acts of pain used to inflict pleasure whereas DD never contains any sort of sexual release. To put it simply DD is treating one spouse (usually the wife) like a child who the other spouse (usually the husband) has to discipline.
And the majority of those practicing it are Christians, say what???
In future posts, I’m going to refute their so-called scriptural support for their movement, but for now, I want us to really look at the heart of this movement.
Firstly, I want to point out that a number of women and men in abusive relationships also tolerate being beaten or put down. In many cases, a lot of charges could not be laid because they made no effort to say no, fully believing that they deserved their punishment. How is this any different? The inflictor has full control, even the ability to dish out what’s known as “maintenance punishment”. This means that even if the other spouse has done nothing wrong, the inflictor can still punish them to “keep them in-line”. They say it’s done in love for their spouse. Kind of like how an abuser says the same thing? Hmmm…
Now I know many will use the argument that what happens between a married couple stays between them. I also know many don’t view it as abuse since it’s consensual. Is it still consensual, people, when those being spanked for example tell their punisher to stop but are only pinned down until “broken”?. In my research of the matter, I’ve looked at countless blogs on those who are in practicing DD relationships. Of their recounts, this is a common issue I have noticed in almost every single one. Their argument is that because it was agreed upon earlier or they realized half way through they deserved it, it was consensual.
This surprises me as even BDSM, a movement made popular by the recent series Fifty Shades of Grey, have what they call a safe-word which is used when the pain goes too far and they want it to end.
While I am used to seeing similar practices within the secular world, what saddens me the most is that this movement of DD is mostly practiced by Christians. I made an effort to see their reasoning and looking at their scriptural support turned my stomach. Context matters. That’s why in the next post I will address these twistings.
GOD BLESS XX
~ C
Pursuing God's Best 
I wish more people would speak out against this. The thing that especially disturbs me, as a Christian, is that many of these women (and some men) are publishing ROMANCE FICTION related to the use of discipline. The fact is, there is often in the practice of this disgusting abuse, an element of sexual stimulation. If it were purely disciplinary in nature, this would not be the case. What is even more disturbing to me is that there are probably young women growing up in this culture who will see this as natural. I read a post by a young woman (who escaped the movement) whose mother was forced to marry someone against her will and submit to this behavior. The young woman feared she would also. I guess this must be why they keep it all underground—what church would condone this type of behavior?
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It utterly devestated me when I discovered this existed. The most disturbing aspect was that many of these “Christians” truly believed God gave authorty to husbands to treat their wives as such. I doubt there are churches who support this movement, but I’m surprised by many who believe in this sort of system. Even if it’s not directly spanking as punishment, I unfortunately have met a couple of Christian men who thought it was okay to make their wives write lines, cut off funding, etc as discipline. This is all 100% abuse to me. I wish there was a way to reach these people.
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Yes. I write posts where I find them. But other than that, they are in it of their own volition. I believe they will have to want to get out of it, and then God will open the way for them. At first I felt sorry for Leah Kelley, the woman who writes a lot of their books, but then I realized she is propogating a lot of it and leading other women to accept it.
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I think it comes down to brainwashing to be honest. You see it in Churches today, just maybe not to this degree. For example, women are told that they have to be obedient to their husbands like a child to a parent. Many women are raised to believe that from birth so it’s very hard to leave somethng you’ve been told all your life is true.
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